When Your Partner Doubts God – Crosswalk {Couples} Devotional

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When your spouse doubts God
By Heather Riggleman

So the other disciples said to him, "We have seen the Lord!"

But he said to them, "If I don't see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were and put my hand in his side, I won't believe." – John 20:25

It felt so fresh and new. I was holding my Bible in my hands as I looked across the pond at my husband and daughter. It was a cool autumn day, the perfect way to explore nature and take a deep breath of fresh air.

Chris looked in my direction and I pretended not to notice and went back to my Bible. Then I prayed in silence. I gave my life to Jesus less than two years ago. Chris assumed it was a phase and waited for the other shoe to fall. After the years I've spent on the bottom of a bottle, who could blame him? I kept making promises to stop drinking and consuming. But then the world would feel overwhelming, the pain of my past would trigger such deep emotions, and I would disappear. I wouldn't return his calls or texts and the sheriff would take me home at 4am.

No wonder Chris had his doubts. The day I gave my life to Jesus, my Savior healed me and made me well. I no longer longed to take the pain away because it was gone. The empty caves in my soul that threatened to overtake my life were filled with the presence of God. But how do you explain this to a spouse who has barely heard of this "Jesus guy"?

If your spouse doubts the power of Christ or even doubts who Jesus is, think about what Jesus did for the doubters. In the book of John there is the story of “Doubting Thomas”. In addition to Thomas, the other disciples met Jesus after he had risen from the dead. Jesus appeared in the middle of a locked room where they had gathered. They had to see him with their eyes, they had to hear his voice when he spoke to them. They saw the wounds in his hands, feet, and side. They were also gifted with the Holy Spirit. All except Thomas, see you a week later:

A week later, his students were back in the house and Thomas was with them. Even though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood under them and said, "Peace be upon you!" Then he said to Thomas: “Put your finger here; see my hands stretch out your hand and place it in my side. Stop doubting and believe. "

Thomas said to him: My Lord and my God!

Then Jesus said to him: “Because you saw me, you believed; Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believed. "

Jesus 'willingness to meet Thomas' unbelief is a reminder that God can handle doubt. Your doubting Thomas may look different than mine. Your doubting Thomas may not know who God really is. Your doubting Thomas may believe in a crisis of faith or lack a relationship with God. He may doubt that God is in control amid all the bad things that are booming on the news. Your doubting Thomas may have a past and may wonder whether or not he was forgiven.

Thomas's example is for the stubborn skeptic buried within each of us. It is an invitation to draw closer to God when you pray for your spouse.

Two years after my own conversion, my doubting Thomas met Jesus. Despite the mistakes, setbacks, and misunderstandings, Chris looked through everything about how Jesus had changed my soul from within. One night at a play, the Holy Spirit called Chris and he responded by dragging me to the altar with him (even though he was seven months pregnant!). He exchanged his doubts with Jesus.

If your spouse is a doubter, keep praying, continuing to lead by example, and keep trusting in the God who never stops loving and persecuting his beloved children.

Heather Riggleman calls Nebraska home with her three kids and 20 year old husband (Hey, this isn't for everyone). She writes to bring bold truths into marriage, career, mental health, faith, relationships, celebration, and heartbreak. Heather is a writer and former national award-winning journalist. Her work has also been featured in Proverbs 31 Ministries, MOPS, Today's Christian Woman, and Focus On the Family. You can find her on heatherriggleman.com or connect with her on Instagram.

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