Smack about Jesus' bride – girlfriends in God
May 22, 2020
Talk smack about the bride of Jesus
"A new command I give you: love one another. As I loved you, you have to love each other. This will tell everyone that you will be my disciples if you love one another ”(John 13: 34-35 NIV).
Friend to friend
I met Shelly in the supermarket. She had just returned from visiting her future daughter-in-law. Her son married in a few months and the weekend was supposed to help the two families get to know each other better.
"I'll tell you one thing," Shelly began, "she may be a Christian, but there is a chapter in the Bible that girls haven't read … Proverbs 31. The first thing she doesn't know is how to be a woman. And I know where she got it from. Her mother. She made all of the decisions. It was their show. Throughout the weekend it was obvious that the women in this family were in charge. "
Shelly continued to point out the bride's shortcomings as I felt uncomfortable by the minute. My heart went to her … not the mother-in-law, but the bride. Current culture calls this "talking". I was so glad that her son was not there to hear his mother "talk" about his bride. This young girl had no idea that she had been closely examined and was missing. It made my stomach a little sick.
Then I wondered how God's son Jesus feels when we talk badly about his bride. If we question and criticize fellow believers who are as flawed as we are. When we value and insult brothers and sisters in Christ as if we were the ones sitting in the judge's chair. Yes, the church has had stomach bumps from the world around us, but most of the criticism comes from the family itself.
Jesus knew the tendency of his followers to criticize each other. He also knew the destructive potential of our negative words to turn outsiders away from belief. Jesus said: “A new commandment that I give you: love one another. As I loved you, you have to love each other. It will tell everyone that you are my disciples if you love each other ”(John 13: 34-35), emphasis added).
Did you understand that? "This will tell everyone that you are my disciples if you love each other." If we use our words against each other rather than against each other, the world will say, "Why should I want to be part of it?" ”
Others in the Bible instructed us not to speak badly of the bride. The words appear in the Bible at least 55 times to one another. Here are just a few:
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another over you (Romans 12:10).
Live in harmony with one another (Romans 12:16).
Accept each other as Christ accepted you to praise God (Romans 15: 7).
Encourage yourself daily, as long as it says "Today," so that none of you are hardened by the deception of sin (Hebrews 3:13).
Be very humble and gentle; Be patient and carry each other in love (Ephesians 4: 2).
Be kind and merciful to one another and forgive one another, as God in Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:32).
Did you notice how many of these contained "another" words? God has called us to live in community and use our words to build unity.
So before we say anything negative about the bride of Jesus, before we "clap", we think back. Jesus said, "Love one another as I loved you."
God help me shut up if I want to complain or despise your bride. I want the world to know me because of my love for you and the body of Christ. May my words be an encouragement to all who hear.
In Jesus name
Now it's your turn
A man named Joseph was so encouraging that the apostles changed his name. Read Acts 4:36. What did you change his name to?
His new name meant "son of encouragement". Wouldn't it be wonderful if we became so encouraging among other believers that our names were changed to daughters of encouragement?
What does Hebrews 3:13 tell us about encouraging the body of Christ?
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