Love from the backyard to the canvas
The love depicted in popular culture often reveals what was broken due to the common sin and consequences of Adam and Eve. This romantic love revealed through the canvas is left to be desired at all costs when it is indeed a distortion of God's intended creation. Popular culture reinterprets biblical themes and often redefines them for society.
In Genesis 3, known as The Fall, Eve is tempted by a snake to eat the fruits that “open their eyes” to what God knows: the knowledge of good and bad.
Both Eve and Adam eat the forbidden fruit, and God explains the consequences: “I will greatly increase your pain in childbirth. You bear children with pain. Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you ”- Genesis 3:16.
The curses given for disobedience by Adam and Eve seem few, but they manifest themselves in many imperfections and distortions in life. There is a shift between Adam and Eve's relationship in the garden before and after they disobey.
God curses their relationship; In a way, he says that their respect, love, and equality will be distorted. Another is when God says, "Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you." Eve will be dependent on Adam – with physical desire, survival, and emotional attachment.
Eva's choice and consistency
It is easy to see what was lost in a relationship between a man and a woman when sin came into the world from what they had in Paradise. In the garden of Eden, Eve was not subordinate to Adam.
According to Phyllis Trible, Eva was a helper in her article “Depatriarchalization in Biblical Interpretation”. The Hebrew word for helper is "Ezer", which means "beneficial relationship that does not mean inferiority". She says: "Man embodies woman and woman embodies man."
Husband and wife were equal, and Eva was a woman who was her own person, who had a loving husband who loved and desired her, and vice versa – in a healthy and perfect relationship.
This all changed when Adam and Eve decided to open their eyes and become more like God – knowing both good and bad. Unfortunately, they received their wish and a wonderful relationship was forever changed.
God cursed Eve with desire for her husband and her submission to him. Sibley Towner in Genesis says, “Man who rules you. Remember that this phrase is not found in Genesis 1-2, which describes how things should be, but Genesis 3, which describes how things came about after human relationships with God and have experienced brokenness and alienation from one another. & # 39; ”
In the New Oxford Annotated Bible, Michael Coogan says that maturing, civilized people have moved from a connection established in Genesis 2 to a damaged connection between God, man, woman, and earth. He says that Adam and Eve began to break the bond they had between them.
God says in Genesis 3:15: "I will put enmity between you and the woman …" (Genesis 3:15). Hostility means “a feeling or state of hostility; Hate; bad will; Hostility; Antagonism. "Together with the enmity for one another, the man will now rule over the woman.
Trible says, “This statement is not a license to male supremacy, but a condemnation of that pattern. Submission and domination are perversions of creation. “She says that this submission and submission is a consequence of their common sin.
A relationship of reciprocity and equality has been ruined by the curse of a woman's desire for her husband. The imperfections that exist in relationships now reflect Adam and Eve's punishment for disobedience.
Your desire for your husband
It is interesting that the phrase “your wish will be for your husband” (Genesis 3:16) is actually a curse. This statement is a result of Eve's choice, and this wish is not a healthy or good wish.
Some questions are raised, such as what kind of request is this? What makes it a bad wish Interpreters of the word "desire" do not fully agree that it is an all-encompassing sexual desire. it can mean this, but there are different interpretations.
Joel Lohr notes: “S. In his classic commentary on Genesis, R. Driver suggests that this is less about desire than about "addiction". S.R. The driver says that a woman's addiction is her need to "live together".
The word “desire” can refer to sexual desire, the feeling that women need to feel connected to a man both physically and emotionally.
The feeling of always needing that connection, even if it's not in the context God intended, is the punishment women have been given. The line below it reads, "And He will rule over you" and goes hand in hand with "Your wish will be for your husband".
Towner says, "As the ruled, the woman's horizons are narrowed and focused on the man."
It is surely the truth that the goal of many women's hearts is men and that in some ways they need men in their lives.
A new biblical commentary states: "Your desire may be a desire for sexual intercourse or independence, but ultimately the main ship of the man will prevail."
There are many interpretations of the word desire, but the point is that men and women have lost that original context of union and equality. Now women are destined to long for what was once in the garden.
Eva's curse seen through the screen
The problem with defining love in popular culture does not lie in a couple's breakup. The problem is that their identities are intertwined. You are not independent people who love each other, but a dysfunctional being.
God said that a woman's desire will be for her husband. One book and film series that shows a very distorted version of the romantic love that has influenced a generation of young women is the Twilight series.
A poisonous love between a human girl and a vampire is all any young girl wants – the love between Bella and Edward. On one line of the film, Bella's mother observes and says Bella, "It's like the two of you are somehow connected. When you move, he moves." This is an image that clearly defines the code dependency.
According to the biblical text, since the Fall, humanity has moved further away from God and life in the garden. When Eve took a bite of the fruit and offered it to Adam, their relationship was forever changed and terribly perverted.
Unsurprisingly, secular culture has a different and unscriptural view of the distortion that emerged after the Fall, especially for Eve and her new reality.
Lindsey Averill, in her article "Biting the Apple and Killing the Womb: Genesis, Gender, and Gynocide," reveals popular culture's view of Eve and the rise of women in humankind. She says that when Eva disobeyed, she stood up for all women and became independent.
Averill says when Eve took this bite, she created a world where both men and women could be equal. Before the Fall, Averill said the woman was subject to a male god and her husband.
She says that Eve's creation was actually proof that it was not her own but part of her husband's identity.
When people think of Eva's curse, they think of pain in childbirth. This is the consequence that is most noticeable because it is physical and obvious.
The other two consequences of wanting your husband and being in control of you are harder to see. As women, we know that we have an innate desire for men and we want to feel connected to them. In the context of biblical marriage, this is something that God created as a gift for husband and wife, but outside of that it brings heartbreak and destruction.
“We do not have love if it is not all-embracing and all-consuming,” is the message to girls and women of all ages. According to Genesis 3, this is not the relationship God intended for men and women.
Eve did not break the man's control when she took a bite of this fruit, she created that control. The biblical text calls upon all of humanity to have healthy, loving relationships, but because of the Fall, this is not the case in popular culture.
For further reading:
Did evil exist before Adam and Eve sinned?
Why did God create the forbidden fruit in the first place?
What is the Biblical Definition of Marriage?
Why do we pray for love?
What is the biblical view of submission?
How are created in the image of God?
How can I protect my heart?
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Molly Law is the editor of Christianity.com. She holds a Masters of Arts in Publishing from the University of Stirling UK, where she studied and lived in Scotland for a year. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in English Professional Writing and a minor in Biblical Studies from Gardner-Webb University. Her editorial career includes managing editor of a bimonthly magazine for the American Correctional Association, assistant editor at Luath Press in Edinburgh and freelance journalist for News Virginian. She enjoys reading, creative and traveling British literature.